Your attachment style, read from how you actually talk about connection.

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, identifies four core patterns: Secure (comfortable with closeness and independence), Anxious (craves closeness but fears it won't last), Avoidant (values independence and distances from emotional intimacy), and Disorganized (simultaneous desire for and fear of closeness, often rooted in early experiences where caregivers were both comforting and frightening). Most people have a dominant style with elements of others.

Securely attached adults are comfortable with emotional intimacy and interdependence. They can rely on others without fear of abandonment and allow others to rely on them without feeling suffocated. They handle relationship conflict well, recover from disagreements without extended emotional dysregulation, and generally feel confident about their worth to others. Secure attachment is associated with higher relationship satisfaction and better mental health outcomes.

Anxious attachment typically involves heightened sensitivity to relationship signals — reading into small changes in a partner's behavior, a persistent need for reassurance that is temporarily satisfied but quickly returns, difficulty tolerating uncertainty in relationships, and a strong fear of abandonment that may trigger behaviors (like frequent contact attempts or conflict-seeking) that paradoxically increase the risk of the feared outcome. It often developed in response to inconsistently available caregivers in childhood.

Yes. Attachment style is not fixed. Consistent experiences in secure, reliable relationships — including therapy — can shift your baseline patterns over time. Avoidant individuals can become more comfortable with closeness in stable partnerships. Anxiously attached people can develop more security with evidence that their relationships are reliable. That said, change typically happens gradually and with intentional effort — not from a single relationship or experience.

Memrov reads your exported AI conversation history from ChatGPT, Claude, or Gemini. Attachment patterns appear consistently in how people write about relationships — how you frame conflicts, how often relationship anxiety surfaces, what you ask for help with, how you describe other people's motivations. A single conversation reveals little; across hundreds of interactions over weeks and months, these patterns become statistically detectable. Memrov looks for the stable signals, not the noise.

Self-report attachment tests (questionnaires) have well-documented limitations: people often rate themselves as more secure than their behavior suggests because they know what "secure" looks like and aspire to it. Behavioral reading from conversation history, as Memrov does, sidesteps this bias — your conversations were not written to describe your attachment style, so the signal is less filtered by self-perception. That said, Memrov is not a clinical tool, and a therapist or psychologist remains the most appropriate resource for therapeutic work around attachment.

Yes. Your attachment style reading is included in Memrov's free tier. You get your attachment style identification and a short interpretation at no cost. The full reading — a long-form essay on how your attachment style interacts with your Big Five traits and values, plus a downloadable PDF — is available as a paid upgrade.